Every coming out comes with its own struggles, both during the time leading up to it and afterwards. For bisexuals, sometimes it seems that the problems don’t even start until after your coming out – when suddenly everyone thinks it’s okay to ask you the most inappropriate questions and analyse your personality on all fronts. Here are 10 things we are really tired of hearing.
1. ‘It’s just a phase’
Trust us, it’s really, really not.
2. ‘You must have loads of sex’
Oh, how we wish that was the case.
3. ‘So you’re into threesomes?’
Well, not necessarily, and definitely not with you.
4. ‘You’re just bi to get guys’ attention’
It’s not your fault that the media have sexualised girl/girl action, but please, this is a tad offensive.
5. ‘So you’re a slut?’
First of all, judging someone on the number of people they slept with is really, really lame and also: see number 2.
6. ‘When was the last time you were with a guy/girl?’
Does it matter? Do we need to pass some sort of bisexuality test? Are we not bi enough if our last three relationships were with someone of the opposite sex?
7. ‘Dating must be so easy for you’
Dating is just as hard for us as it is for everybody else.
8. ‘So you’re a cheater?’
Seriously, how do you get from A to B? We’re attracted to both men and women, not all men and women. And besides, we still have morals.
9. ‘Men are so annoying, I wish I could date girls’
We agree that men are annoying, but that literally doesn’t have anything to do with us being bi.
10. ‘You’ve never been with a guy/girl, so you can’t really be bi’
Once again, is this some kind of bisexuality test? We’re perfectly capable of knowing who we’re attracted to without having the experience you seem to deem necessary.
On behalf of bisexuals all around the world: please try and refrain yourself from saying these things. It would be greatly appreciated.
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